Been reading up alot on babies, parenting and marriage eversince I was pregnant. So much so that I feel that simply being a parent and a wife, is already a whole load of responsiblities and things to learn...
Here are some of my thoughts on family and relationships...
Women, after they become mothers, tends to focus on their kids, and no longer on their husbands or themselves. If a couple fails to keeps the sparks glowing, have truthful and open communication, and work on mutual respect, husband-wife relationship will deteriorate over time.
In today’s era, family togetherness is realistically hard(er) to fulfill. Parents tend to neglect their children as they are either busy with work or have other commitments. Thus, kids are often sent to attend tuitions and courses that they, too, spend little time at home communicating and nurturing a loving relationship with other family members.
In today's society, technology dominates; email, sms etc. Hence relationship with other people becomes superficial too. Computers, TV and games also takes away the much-needed communication, social interactions and togetherness. Even mannerism. (eg. a child can be so focused on the TV that he ‘ignores’ mum or replies impatiently when she’s talking to him.) Such a society also makes us and our children more individualistic. (read: less loving and less together as a unit.)
Young children, below three especially, depend emotionally, physically, psychologically on their parents. Hence, if parent-child relationships are not strongly built since young, they unfortunately cannot be ‘repaired’ and ‘redeemed’ at a later age.
It is critical that we instill the importance of morality, characters and relationships in our children when they are still very young, and at the same time, setting examples ourselves. A strong foundation must built from within, and that is none other than ourselves, our own family.
