1. Begin with infancy to give the child everything he wants. In this way he will grow up to believe the world owes him a living.
2. When he picks up bad words, laugh at him...this will make him think he's cute. It will also encourage him to pick up "cuter" phrases that will blow off the top off your head late.
3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he is 21 and then let him "decide for himself."
4. Avoid use of the word "wrong." It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him to believe later, when he is arrested for stealing a car, that society is against him and he is being persecuted.
5. Pick up everything he leaves lying around - books, shoes, clothes. Do everything for him so that he will be experienced in throwing all responsibility to others.
6. Quarrel frequently in the presence of your children. In this way they will not be too shocked when the home is broken up later.
7. Give a child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own. Why should he have things as tough as you had them?
8. Satisfy his every craving for food, drink, comfort. See that every sensual desire is gratified. Denial may lead to harmful restraint.
9. Take his part against neighbors, teachers, policemen. They are all prejudiced against your child.
10. When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself (finding excuses) by saying, "I never could do anything with him."
11. Tell them they are "No Good" often. They will grow up trying to prove you are correct.
12. When they make a mistake, criticize in front of others so everyone can see how disciplined you are.
13. If a child with ingenuity creates a useless (but original) "thing", make a fool of him, he hs to learn to be practical.
14. Prepare for a life of grief. You will be likely to have it.
Keane will be 2 years old in November and I'm still breastfeeding him. I have been asked by many when I intend to stop BF him, some commented that it is not good to BF a toddler... Some even attributed his small frame and babyish look to BFing for too long... Well, from what I know, Keane is healthy (rarely falls sick), active and alert. Moreover, both Keane and me are not ready yet, and I hope to let Keane wean off by himself. On top of that, he's undergoing potty training now, I definitely do not want to pressurise him anymore by weaning off!
In 22 October last year, I posted an article on Extended Nursing here, to read, simply click on Extended Nursing on the left in What I've read -- READ UPs & REFERENCES.
Read the following from babycenter.
How do I respond to people who pressure me to wean my toddler?
My husband, mom, and mother-in-law are all pressuring me to stop breastfeeding my 13-month-old. They say he's too old to nurse and breast milk isn't good for him now that he's over a year old. They also think he behaves too much like a baby and is too attached to me because I nurse him. But he and I are just not ready to give it up. What should I do?
Community Answers (note: selected some to be posted here)
Anyone who believes that breastfeeding after 1 year is detrimental to a baby is not very intelligent. Also, suggestions that it is smother love, and the belief that cows milk is somehow better for your child at this point are absolutely ridiculous. cows milk is designed for calves, breast milk is designed for human babys (yes, they are still babys at 13 months).These people are just trying to justify what they did with their own children. What they did was their choice, and they should not be made to feel guilty about that, but that does not mean they are right. I am still breastfeeding my 16 month old daughter and could not imagine any other scenario up to now. I do plan on weaning in the near future, but this is something that should be done slowly and gently. No mother carries on BFing for their own satisfaction, it is a selfless act, and it is physically demanding. Hurray for breastfeeding mothers! they should all get a medal!
posted 9/16/2007 by Anonymous
You know, I breastfed my second son until he was 3. I would never have thought that would happen when he was born because my first son weaned himself when he was 10 months old. My second son, though, was and still is very small for his age, and was never able to drink from a bottle (and did not then particularly care for formula, nor now very much for cow's milk, or goat's milk) or, while my older son has always been able to both nurse and drink milk (cow's milk, soy milk, formula, etc.) from a bottle. This may have had something to do with why he nursed until such a late age. Again, from the time he was 18 months old it was really just once or twice a day. While he is small for his age, he is very bright and active and articulate and a very big boy in every other way. In some ways, almost more confident in himself than his big brother. I guess what I'm trying to say is, they are all so different, and what's right for one may not be for another.
posted 9/10/2007 by Anonymous
I'm still breastfeeding my 19 month old daughter. I don't care what anyone else thinks.. including relatives. She's happy and healthy and that's all that matters to me. She'll wean herself when she's ready. The world wide average is between 3 and 4. No one should wean their child because of pressure from anyone. It's a personal choice between mother and child. Those are the only 2 people who should decide when it's time. There are people who have a misconception that we're somehow forcing our kids to nurse or that they are contstantly clinging to our breasts. It's simply not the case. People will get angry and criticize you for your decision to e-breastfeed. I just laugh it off. If they want to think that my kids will breastfeed until their in college, let them. If they want to think I'm crazy, let them. I honestly don't care... I've done my research and I know the facts about extended breastfeeding. No one could ever convince me that what I'm doing is wrong.
posted 7/18/2006 by Anonymous
Good for you for putting your child first! I'm sorry to hear you don't have support from the people closest to you. I think you are doing what you feel is best for your son and there is lot's of research to support what you are doing! Maybe you could try and give your husband/ mother/mom in law some of the supporting facts on why it's important to continue breastfeeding. They may just be very misinformed. La Leche League has a wonderful website that gives lot's of good information regarding breastfeeding (as well as support!). Maybe if they learn more about extended breastfeeding and realize that there is nothing wrong with it and it only benefits you and your child they may change their way of thinking. In the end I would assume that they also want what is best for your child. Just rememer you are not alone in doing what's best for your child. I'm the proud mother of a healthy, happy boy and at 21 months old he is still nursing! Best wishes to you and your family!
posted 8/20/2007 by Anonymous
You should ABSOLUTELY continue breastfeeding! Your milk changes as the baby grows, making sure he's getting exactly what he needs from you. I suggest going to a LLL league meeting, or look up answers from them on the internet. Do not let anyone pressure you on this issue, it is completely natural to continue breastfeeding into the toddler years, AND RECOMMENDED by the American Academy of Pediatrics!
posted 8/10/2007 by attached_mamma
Keep nursing as long as your baby wants it. Find a nursing support group in your area. You'll find plenty of non-judgemental friends who'll be on your side. My daughter just weaned herself at 17 months. It was her decision and while I am sad, I respect her decision. Letting your baby self wean is the way to go. Everytime you nurse your baby please enjoy it. You never know when your baby will decide to be all done.
posted 7/10/2006 by jenn, former nursing mama
How is YOUR breastfeeding anybody elses business??? Why do you engage in this conversation w/ them? I don't breastfeed - regretably - and when someone asks me why I'm not, or any question along those lines, I ask them when was the last time they had sex? I usually get a shocked look. To that I reply, "Pretty personal question, huh?" That pretty much puts a period to the conversation.
posted 8/30/2006 by Anonymous
Dear Rita, don't let anyone pressure you to wean against your own instincts. A mother always knows best what's right for her baby. I am still nursing my 19-month-old mornings and evenings. He is an intelligent, well-adjusted, independent little boy who feeds himself, drinks from a cup and doesn't at all "behave like a baby". And he still almost never gets sick. And breastmilk isn't suddenly bad for your baby past 1 year of age, it's just not as essential as it used to be, but still beneficial. Forcing your baby to wean may mess him up more than waiting until he is ready. If you decide to continue but can't find support from the people close to you, go out and look for the many people who are for extended nursing. Keep in mind that nursing for 2 years is perfectly normal in most parts of the world.
posted 7/26/2005 by Fran
I breastfed my older son past his second birthday despite pressure from MIL plus my husband echoing her. My younger son turned 16 months yesterday and I have no plans on weaning him because breastfeeding is an excellent source of nutrients. I just make sure he is well fed with "regular" food and sometimes cow's milk, when he feels like it. Keep nursing your toddler and tell busybodies to get a life! :-)
posted 6/22/2006 by Sabeena
Most people are totally misinformed about the benefits of breastfeeding! It surprises me that a resource that is so precious to life is so misunderstood! Breastmilk and it's benefits change with your child as they grow! As long as you continue to eat a good diet and take care of yourself, you and your child benefit both mentally and physically. Arm yourself with the facts! The La leche league and good pediatricians can answer some of your questions about the benefits with more detail. When you are confronted with people that are misinformed......make it your job to inform them! I have nursed all three of my children until they were 18-26 months and have taught many of the benefits. Enjoy this blessed time in both of your lives......it will be over before you know it and you will never get it back! You and your child will know when the time is right!
