The following news was sent to me via email from a friend, titled "Must listen to children's views and opinions (The complete story)"...
After reading it, I was overwhelmed by a sense of sadness... Depression strikes not only adults, kids and teens can be potential victims too if not properly handled. For a 15 year old to end his life in such a manner shows us how fatal depression can be. Although it is hard to fathom the minds of today's youngsters, try asking ourselves whether we have seriously take what they said or feel into account.
Depression can carry on for many years too. Just recently, mother told me that a WD who suffered from depression for over 30 years jumped to her death... Sighz! Depressed for over 30 years! Just what kind of life was she and her family leading?
I seriously feel that in our present society, it is crucial that we aim at developing a healthy EQ in our kids.
Thu, Nov 27, 2008
AsiaOne
Teen leapt to death over CCA
No one would have thought Tan Wen Yi was a depressed or troubled teen. A Secondary 3 student of Anglo-Chinese School (Independent), Wen Yi was often described as a cheerful student who was respectful to teachers, and well-liked by fellow school-mates.
However, on 13 Feb this year, the 15-year-old student jumped to his death when he did not get approval from his teacher and parents to quit his co-curricular activity (CCA), track-and-field.
Wanted to switch to drama
The incident happened around 9pm at his home, a condominium located along Stevens Road.
What is known is that from the start, Wen Yi was unhappy about being in the track-and-field team and frequently missed training practices as a result. The situation improved a little when he began to do well in the sport, clinching 2 individual medals in the process.
He had expressed his wish to switch to another CCA, but was met with disapproval from both his teacher and parents.
On the day of the 13th, the teacher-in-charge of Wen Yi's CCA, Mr Ng Yeong Joo, 38, saw him in playing soccer in school with friends instead of attending practice. When confronted, Wei Yi revealed his unhappiness and expressed his wish to transfer to the drama club instead. However, this was met with disapproval from the teacher, as he advised him not to.
After the teacher had left, Wen Yi turned to his soccer buddies and confided that he was sick of attending training four times a week as punishment for his truancy, and expressed that he "wanted to die". Brushing off his comment as a joke, the friends continued with their game.
Final words
While on the way home at around 6pm that day, Wen Yi's friend, who accompanied him on the journey back, did not detect anything amiss during their conversation. Nothing was out of the ordinary, as they talked and joked as usual.
When Wen Yi got home at about 8.10pm that night, he told his parents that he had lost his interest in running, and insisted on making the switch to drama instead. However, his mother tried to dissuade him.
Dejected, Wen Yi's last words to his mother before returning to his room was, "I'd planned to do this in March, but i will do it now."
Sensing something was amiss, his mother quickly followed him into his room. She entered just in time to see Wen Yi climbing up the window ledge and pushing the window open before jumping down. She rushed forward to try and grab him, but it was too late.
Still in his school uniform when he jumped, Wen Yi was pronounced dead on the scene by paramedics.
He made plans for last day of his life
Just a day before his death, Wen Yi had messaged his friend at around 5.47pm, extending an invitation to join him in a "crime spree". Wen Yi was alleged to have text messaged his friend that on the last day of his life, he would commit a series of law-breaking activities, "letting the world know of my crazy deeds", before ending his life by jumping off a building. He went on to add, "As my friend, will you join me?"
Concerned, Wen Yi's friend spoke to him about the message the next day. It was then that Wen Yi told him he was tired and found life meaningless. During their conversation, Wen Yi also revealed that he would carry out his "plan" in March. His friend tried to console him, and told him to push any suicidal thoughts out of his head. Sadly, his words went unheeded.
